Constructive or healthy perfectionism is a personality trait that is associated with finding enjoyment and fulfilment from doing things well. The focus is process-oriented, where you learn from your mistakes.

A darker side of perfectionism is a sel...

It is useful to remember that everyone is just winging it all the time. The lesson to be drawn is not that this will throw us in utter chaos, but that you, unconfident, self-conscious, potentially have as much to contribute to your field as anyone else.

You can improvise as you go...

Most of us misunderstand love to be all about holding on to the other person, trying to fix them and taking care of them in all ways possible.

We need detachment to not take personally other people's reactions, to not seek outside validation and to draw boundaries so that ...