Wanting change vs. wanting to change

People become increasingly aware of the potential benefits of making a change, but the costs to make the change creates conflict and uncertainty that can last months or even years. People in this stage view change as a process of giving something up rather than a means of gain.

• Some people say they want to change, but they don't really mean it.
• Even when altering our behavior represents all reward and no risk and clinging to the status quo can costs us our careers and relationships, we still resist change.
• Smoking should be a relati...

Other people may love you so much the way you are that they fear certain decisions you make will change you and that those changes could impact your relationship with them.

But it’s usually in your best interest to change, to evolve into more of the person you want to become and the life y...