Some times in life, infact many times in life we will experience massive problems obstacles and loss. But that's completely normal cause when we try to go far and follow our dreams, life throws many trials and obstacles our way to see if we can handle them

Obstacles Of Life

It is human nature to try to avoid things that us and are bringing us down, and on many occasions when something unpredictable comes into our lives we try to do thing like sleeping, binge-eating, taking alcohol, smoking, scrolling through social media and many other things that help us to be distracted from the problem so that we get a temporal relieve from it

What We Usually Do When Faced With Big Problems

But the only place that true comfort comes from is God. He is the only one that can fill that void in our heart that we thought we couldn't. But not may people know that and that's why some people conclude to giving up their dreams and falling into bad habits like smoking and drinking while others look towards suicide because they think giving up life is the answer to end their pain.

Comfort Of God

We can alway tap into God's everlasting comfort as he is just right there waitimg for you to make the decision to go with him. All we need to do is to apologise of all our wrong doings to him and promise not to do thing that are not right and pure and to trust and put faith in him and secure your bond with him in your heart and then he will surely grant you his comfort if you believe he willAnd with additional study of the Bible we can figure out how to solve our problems and move on with life

How To Get The Comfort Of God

The verse 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 shows that their is purpose to pain as when you are faced with those problems and conquer them you get stronger, but you also get to comfort others who are going through same challenges ...So start from today to connect with God to feel his comfort and get past problems, obstacles and challenges in life and you can help others who are going down the path that you wentAnd eventually with God at your side you will eventually achieve you dreams, whatever they might be (P.s God love you❤️)

Share God's Comfort To Others 

This will help you find true comfort and peace😌

Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort; who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in

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Mental Health

2 Corinthians 1:3-4

You are focused on your goals, you mind your own business, you are no longer distracted by the noise.You understand that envy is what happens when you have too much free time and not enough purpose.You are now busy enjoying your own life.

You Feel Less And Less Anxious

You waste less time and energy on drama because you are choosing your relationships more wisely.Your healthier habits earned you a stronger body and smarter mind. Your past investments paid off and earned you more freedom as well.

You Feel Less And Less Overwhelmed

You spent enough time self-reflecting, you learned how to enjoy your own company.You started to attract people who didn't need you, but who instead, simply enjoyed your company too.You compounded many long-term relationships with loyal friends.

You Feel Less And Less Lonely

You understand that there are things you can control, others that you can't, and you learned how to let go.You use your own anger as an indicator of success: when you are happily living the life you want, you almost never get angry.

You Feel Less And Less Angry

You understand that mistakes are part of the game.You don't hide your scars, you exhibit them as learning lessons for others.In the grand scheme of things, you realize there is no point taking yourself too seriously.

You Feel Less And Less Embarrassed

There was a time you woke up with no purpose, tired, depressed. You were bored, you wanted to kill time.Now, your days are full of meaningful challenges.You actually wish days were longer because there is so much you want to experience.

You Feel Less And Less Dull And Lazy

You thought you wanted these things, then you realized as you got older that you were actually fed those desires by others.You understand that what you truly want is far simpler than you thought: genuine connections, freedom, peace of mind.

You Feel Less And Less Confused

Ever got that feeling of satisfaction & happiness when you are doing something you like or when you are on the right path? These ideas describe those feelings of satisfaction & other emotions when you are truly on the right path!

You are focused on your goals, you mind your own business, you are no longer distracted by the noise.

You understand that envy is what happens when you have too much free time and not enough purpose.

You are now busy enjoying your own life.

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Productivity

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Habits

How To Know You Are On The Right Path In Life

C. G. Jung described Shadow as the unconscious part of human personality the Ego doesn't want to recognise as part of himself, even of it's probably the most important part of ourself.Shadow usually manifest herself at night, in dreams, and in behaviors called projections (I summarise what projection is in my first publication). Personally I often "feel" her when I have some imperceptible thoughts during my daily activities, and knowing myself better thanks to a psychologist is helping me to talk and understand my unconscious mind.

Shadow

I like to call her Shadow like I call my friends with their names. It's part of every person in this world, even if a lot of people think they haven't a hidden, unconscious mind which rules their life until they come into contact with her to find out who they really are.No I'm not crazy when I say that you have to talk with your Shadow, but mainly you have to hear without judging what she say. Our Ego, the conscious mind, work to hide a lot of thoughts, ideas, behaviors and other things that he doesn't like just because he have to mantein an ideal imagine of himself, of how other see us.

What Is Shadow?

Here are some thoughts I'm working with, which are also common in many people.- traumas or very painful situations 😖- behaviours you had in past time you don't want to remind 🫣- behaviors you notice in others which annoy you (projections) 😒. They are simply reflections of YOUR personality that your Ego doesn't want to admit to be real.

Examples 

For a better life, first of all it's important to know ourrself and agree to be who you are, and make peace with parts of us we don't like recognising and understanding them (and eventually talking to your Shadow🗣️)If you let your unconscious do the work for you, probably you will ruin a lot of relationships because of your wrong behaviors. That's an invitations to discover yourself, and yes also a judgement to make you understand that the simplest roads are not the best (in this case the simplest read is not to make an effort, listen and work on something you won't like).

I've decided that I will publish soon something about dreams and their subjective interpretation, hopping this can help someone to find out something interesting 🤔. Thanks for reading, let me know what do you think in comment, I would like to create a collaborative community to share opinions about certain topics. M.👋🏻

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Personal Development

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Love & Relationships

Talking with your Shadow 

In the heat of the moment, it’s easy to overlook your breathing. But that kind of shallow breathing you do when you’re angry keeps you in <a href="https://www.healthline.com/health/stress/amygdala-hijack">fight-or-flight </a>mode. To combat this, try taking slow, controlled breaths you inhale from your belly rather than your chest. This allows your body to instantly calm itself. <ul><li>Find a chair or place where you can comfortably sit, allowing your neck and shoulders to fully relax. </li><li>Breathe deeply through your nose, and pay attention to your tummy rising. </li><li>Exhale through your mouth. </li><li>Try doing this exercise 3 times a day for 5 to 10 minutes or as needed. </li> </ul>

Take Deep Breaths 

Try slowly repeating, “Take it easy,” or “Everything’s going to be okay,” the next time you’re feeling overwhelmed by a situation. You can do this out loud if you want, but you can also say it under your breath or in your head. You can also keep a list of phrases on your phone for a quick reminder before a stressful work presentation or challenging meeting.

Recite a Comforting Mantra

When wrestling with boiling tension, try painting a mental picture to calm your body and brain: <ul><li>Think of a real or imaginary place that makes you feel happy, peaceful, and safe. This can be that camping trip to the mountains you took last year or an exotic beach you’d like to visit someday. </li><li>Focus on the sensory details by envisioning yourself there. What are the smells, sights, and sounds? </li><li>Be aware of your breathing and keep this image in your mind until you feel your anxiety start to lift. </li> </ul>

Try Visualization 

Sometimes, sitting still can make you feel even more anxious or on edge. Mindfully moving your body with <a href="https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/13-benefits-of-yoga">yoga </a>and other calming exercises can release tension in your muscles. The next time you’re confronted by a stressful situation, try taking a walk or even doing some light dancing to keep your mind off the stress.

Mindfully Move Your Body

Moments of high stress can warp your perception of reality, making you feel like the world is out to get you. The next time you feel anger bubbling up, try to check your perspective. Everyone has bad days from time to time, and tomorrow will be a fresh start.

Check Your Perspective 

Angry outbursts won’t do you any favors, but that doesn’t mean you can’t vent your frustrations to a trusted friend or family member after a particularly bad day. Plus, allowing yourself space to express some of your anger prevents it from bubbling up inside.

Express Your Frustration

Finding the humor in a heated moment can help you keep a balanced perspective. This doesn’t mean you should simply laugh off your problems, but looking at them in a more lighthearted way can help. The next time you feel your rage bubbling up, imagine how this scenario might look to an outsider? How might this be funny to them? By not taking yourself too seriously, you’ll have more chances to see how unimportant minor annoyances are in the big scheme of things.

Defuse with Humor

If your home is cluttered and stressing you out, for example, take a drive or a long walk. You’ll likely find that you’re better equipped to sort through the mess when you return.

Change Your Surroundings 

If you aren’t sure where your anger is coming from, try to remind yourself to take a moment the next time you feel angry. Use this time to take stock of what happened in the moments leading up to your feelings of anger. Were you with a particular person? What were you doing? How were you feelings leading up to that moment?

Recognize Triggers

While dwelling on your day’s misfortunes can seem like the natural thing to do, it won’t help you in the short or long term. Instead, try refocusing on the things that went well. If you can’t find the silver lining in the day, you can also try thinking how things might’ve gone even worse.

Focus on Appreciating

If your anger is impacting your relationships and well-being, talking with a qualified <a href="https://www.healthline.com/health/therapy-for-every-budget">therapist </a>can help you work through the sources of your anger and help you develop better coping tools.

Seek Help

Pent-up anger getting the best of you? Learn how to release it in a productive way.

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Mindfulness

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Health

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Meditation

11 Ways to Release Anger: Tips for Letting Go

I recently recovered from burnout. Reflecting on that time, I realise I’ve been stupid. A few of you might have had similar experiences. I was supervising two teams. I was also responsible for the design of software, including challenging stakeholder management. Then I took on an additional role, as Diversity & Inclusion Officer. On top of that, and with top priority, I was working hard on what I care most about: helping our political, and corporate environment become more design and human-centred.

Mental health is too costly to ignore.

I had all these responsibilities in parallel. Not even because of ambition. I’m not driven by status or promotions.I believe in Human Centred Design and was trying to put this on the map. This is really important to me. I did all the other things because I thought that it was the right thing to do for the organization.I was wrong. Obviously.It was just a matter of time before I’d burn out. I’m a sensitive person. That didn’t help. I suppose that the social effect of Covid didn’t help either.I eventually burned out.

Everyone/Me

After some time off, I'm back to work. I caused some debate by posting a personal message about my mental health on our Slack channel.Those who follow me on IG/LinkedIn might have noticed that I have recently become more active. In 2021, I became depressed & started to have occasional suicidal episodes. I’ve tried to deny my feelings and given people the impression that I was ok, but that’s unsustainable.After a long period of hesitation, I reached out to a psychiatrist. He prescribed antidepressants. I’m currently on the lowest dose possible, have 0 side effects, & don't rely on social media.

And then I recovered :)

Mental health is too costly to ignore, for ourselves and our companies

I recently recovered from burnout. Reflecting on that time, I realise I’ve been stupid. A few of you might have had similar experiences. I was supervising two teams. I was also responsible for the…

Is Stress Still Taboo At Work? 6 Reasons Why We Should Be Open About It

Never expect people to appreciate you. That means someone is controlling your happiness.

"Appreciation"﻿ is the new "Happiness"

𝐀𝐦𝐚𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰...

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Leadership & Management

The Power of Self-Appreciation

A person who controls their speech wields great power. Observing before acting, and speaking only when necessary, demonstrates confidence and masculinity.

Silence Makes a Person More Powerful

True peace is achieved when a person remains composed in the face of chaos, adversity, and problems. By mastering their emotions and developing self-control, they can focus on crafting solutions.

Calm Amid Chaos

"Do not speak unless you can improve upon the silence"

An enigmatic person remains unperturbed, possessing the ability to observe, analyze, and think. Embrace the beauty of mystery, as people are drawn to it.

Embracing Mystery Through Silence

Exhibit restraint in displaying your successes, wealth, and possessions. Excessive exposure allows others to control your life. Prioritize family, career, and mental well-being for a peaceful existence.

Revealing Less, Achieving More

"Be silent for the most part, or, if you speak, say only what is necessary and in few words."

Effective communication doesn't hinge on eloquence but on attentive listening. A valuable conversation emerges from being a good listener. Remember, we have two ears and one mouth for a reason.

Listen More, Speak Less: The Art of Communication

 Sometimes being silent is better than making noise. Use your words carefully and speak only when it's necessary. 

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Strategy

The Power of Silence 

Building mental toughness is a state of mind that enables you to face and overcome challenges and adversities that come into your life.

Mental Toughness

If you want to build a tough mind, you need to practice self-discipline. Discipline is the most important trait in self-development. When you have a disciplined mind, all great things will fall into place.
Start by building a habit and be consistent in doing that habit.

Discipline Is The Key

Change your mindset about struggles in life. Embrace adversities as opportunities for growth and developing a strong mind, much like accepting a gift.

Embracing Adversities

Setting realistic goals in your life will improve your mind's ability to take action and work towards achieving those goals. Don't give up until you achieve your goals. Along the way, you will encounter challenges and setbacks that will shape your mind to be mentally tough.

Set Realistic Goals

You have the power over your mind, not outside events. realize this, and you'll find strength.

Being a mentally tough person can help you achieve great things in life

How to Build Mental Toughness

Self-abandonment begins in childhood. Its likely that your parents or other influential adults didn't meet your emotional and/or physical needs in childhood they abandoned you emotionally or physically — causing you to feel unworthy and unlovable.
As adults, we tend to repeat these types of patterns from childhood because they're familiar; we repeatedly choose partners and friends who mistreat, take advantage of, or don't support us. And we do the same to ourselves. We don't know how to be there for ourselves because no one was truly there for us as children.

Unmasking Self-Abandonment: Tracing Its Origins

Notice how many of these examples of self-abandonment ring true for you.
<ul>
<li>Not trusting your instincts</li>
<li>People-pleasing</li>
<li>Hiding parts of yourself</li>
<li>Perfectionism</li>
<li>Self-criticism and judgment</li>
<li>Not honoring your needs</li>
<li>Suppressing your feelings</li>
<li>Not acting according to your values</li>
<li>Codependent relationships</li>
<li>Not speaking up for yourself</li>
</ul>

Breaking the Cycle: Escaping the Chains of Self-Abandonment

Self-abandonment is a self-destructive pattern that can contribute to anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and unfulfilling relationships. Abandoning yourself may have been a necessity during childhood, but it isn't helpful anymore. So, let's look at how you can begin to trust and value yourself.

Embracing Your True Self: Overcoming Self-Abandonment

Everyone has feelings and needs. You may not have been allowed to express them as a child (or even in some of your adult relationships), but you can now be a safe haven for your own feelings and needs. If you listen, your feelings will tell you what you need and when you meet your needs, you'll be happier and healthier.The objective is to stay present with your difficult feelings, rather than to abandon yourself when you feel overwhelmed. Meditation is another tool that can help you cultivate acceptance of and tolerance for your feelings.

Allow yourself to have feelings and needs.

Try not to hide parts of yourself out of fear of disapproval or judgment. Not everyone is going to like you and that's okay. Don't shrink or change to please others. Express who you are through your work, creative pursuits, your hairstyle and clothes, your hobbies, interests, and passion projects. If you feel out of touch with your true self, commit some time to rediscover what you like and what matters to you.

Allow yourself to be creative, quirky, and uniquely you.

Everyone deserves care and comfort when they are suffering. Often, we're great at doing this for others, but we minimize our own struggles and fail to love ourselves when we need it the most.Most of us werent taught about the importance of self-compassion as children, so we need to teach ourselves these skills as adults. And if your parents didn't show you compassion, this may feel quite foreign. It will get easier and more comfortable with practice.

Treat yourself with compassion

Another important aspect of self-love and trust is advocating for yourself. I know it can be scary to assert yourself and set boundaries. Most of us are afraid of offending or angering people and afraid that well be abandoned if we do. But the alternative — letting others walk all over you — is self-abandonment. Its saying, Other peoples needs and wants matter more than mine. And I will accept disrespect, invalidation, and blame because I dont think Im worthy of anything better. Clearly, this isn't the foundation of a healthy relationship with anyone.

Stand up for yourself

How will you start to show up for yourself? Will you listen to what your body and feelings are telling you? Will you prioritize self-care? Will you do what feels right for you even if others disapprove? Will you comfort yourself when you're having a hard time? Will you set boundaries without feeling guilty? It doesn't matter where you begin, just take one small step today to value yourself.

Start Now

Do you have a hard time trusting yourself? Do you hide parts of yourself your feelings, beliefs, and ideas in 

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Teamwork

Why We Abandon Ourselves and How to Stop

Do not weep. Do not wax indignant.Understand.

No matter how thin you slice it, there will always be two sides.

231 quotes from Baruch Spinoza: 'The highest activity a human being can attain is learning for understanding, because to understand is to be free.', 'The more you struggle to live, the less you live. Give up the notion that you must be sure of what you are doing. Instead, surrender to what is real within you, for that alone is sure....you are above everything distressing.', and 'I do not know how to teach philosophy without becoming a disturber of the peace.'

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Philosophy

Baruch Spinoza Quotes

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