Most of us try to either escape our emotions, or try to fix them. The healthier way to manage difficult feelings is to change your relationship with them.
Instead of treating painful emotions as enemies to be avoided or eliminated, you can learn to treat them as friends to be understood and accepted.

You And Your Emotions Are Friends

Most people have developed an unconscious habit of <a href="https://nickwignall.com/intellectualized-emotions/">intellectualizing</a> their emotions—using highly conceptual and vague language to talk about feelings rather than plain straightforward words.When you acknowledge how you're feeling in plain, simple language, it helps reduce the intensity of the feeling and teaches your brain a valuable lesson: emotions aren't things to be hidden or covered up-they're a normal, if uncomfortable, part of the human experience.

Name It to Tame It

Pain is the messenger. Pain is your body’s way of signaling that there is something very wrong with your wrist that needs to be fixed as soon as possible.Sadness is uncomfortable but not bad. It is a normal response to the loss of something valuable.The next time you experience a difficult or painful emotion, try to remind yourself that just because it feels bad doesn’t mean it is bad.

Just Because It Feels Bad Doesn’t Mean It Is Bad

Replace your instinct to be judgmental about how you're feeling with the habit of being curious about it.If you can cultivate a habit of cultivating a curious about difficult feelings, rather than judgmental, not only will those feelings subside more quickly, you will also be fostering a much kinder, gentler relationship with your own mind.

Be Curious, Not Judgmental

<ul><li>You can't expect to become an expert at managing hugely painful emotions if you haven't practiced</li><li>The best way to practice is to start small and work your way up</li><li>Social anxiety is a skill like anything else, so practice on smaller, easier situations first</li></ul>

Practice with Small Emotions

You can't get rid of painful emotions like anxiety or anger. But you can learn to build a healthier relationship with them.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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4 Tips for Building a Healthier Relationship with Your Emotions - Nick Wignall

"Sometimes not everything that we want will happen, but that doesn't mean we have to give up"

One of the bad thoughts of humans is that when their goals or what they want are not achieved, they will think that they have failed. Even though it is not a failure. If we really think it's a failure then we must also really think that is the beginning of our success.

Bad Thoughts

When the that thing we want is not achieved or we are facing a failure, sometimes we get confused and become more overthinking then in the end we will give up. If we are experiencing something like that, it would be nice if we did a rest and think phase.Resting and Thinking Phase is a phase where we rest ourselves, mentally and mind from something bad that has happened or is happening but we still make plans for what we will do next. Or in other words we do refreshing but still think about the next step so that we don't think too much about the bad things in the problem.

Resting and Thinking Phase

In life we ​​have to make a lot of plans because if one plan doesn't come true, we can make other plans.For example, let's assume our plan is plan A, plan B, plan C. Then our first step is to do plan A but plan A is fails, because we have other plans so we can do plan B or the next plan.So what should we do if all our plans are fail?The answer is that we surrender all our plans to the God, it doesn't mean we give up, it's just that we keep fighting and trying but we trust whatever happens in the future to our God.

Plan A and Other Plans

Basically we have no reason to give up.Because actually we won't know what will happen in the future if we give up now. Let's think, do you know what will happen in your life tomorrow? Of course you don't know but if you think the bad things will happen tomorrow, trust me it's just your bad thoughts.We may fail today but it turns out that in the future we will get success.

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"Actually our life that we have to live is praying, learning and struggling. The problem of failing or succeeding is part of our destiny but God always has a good plan for humans."

It's just  simple ideas from me if we will face a failure :')

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Face Failure 

“Man fears the darkness, and so he scrapes away at the edges of it with fire.”

You saw his work in Neon Genesis Evangelion: Comic Tribute...depicting the truth about Rei with great sensitivity...wait, that's not the right word. What's the opposite of "great sensitivity"? Well, whatever it is, Tony Takezaki's got it, in this collection of all-new stories satirizing both the Evangelion you saw on TV, as well as some scenes that apparently never got aired! SEE! Eva as a 1960s TV show! SEE! Kaworu and Shinji's standup comedy career! SEE! Ritsuko's days as Gendo's student intern! SEE! Eva Units, flinging dookie! You'll see all that and more, because this is Tony Takezaki's Neon Genesis Evangelion!

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You saw his work in Neon Genesis Evangelion: Comic Tribute...depicting the truth about Rei with great sensitivity...wait, that's not the right word. What's the opposite of "great sensitivity"? Well, whatever it is, Tony Takezaki's got it, in this collection of all-new stories satirizing both the Evangelion you saw on TV, as well as some scenes that apparently never got aired! SEE! Eva as a 1960s TV show! SEE! Kaworu and Shinji's standup comedy career! SEE! Ritsuko's days as Gendo's student intern! SEE! Eva Units, flinging dookie! You'll see all that and more, because this is Tony Takezaki's Neon Genesis Evangelion!

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Tony Takezaki's Neon Evangelion

Our thoughts are like a private theatre, and as such they can fascinate us. They are sometimes unpredictable and sometimes on cue. They can surprise us, stimulate us, move us to action and sometimes to tears. As much as thoughts can trigger emotions, they can also be triggered by them: feelings influence what is shown in our mental theatre.

Our Private Mental Theatre

The fleeting images and phrases in our minds make up a good portion of our lives. By some estimates based on brain state transitions in neuroimaging data, we may have 4 to 8 thoughts per minute. Even accounting for some periods of fatigue or apathy and many periods spent perceiving sensory input (such as reading or listening), that can add up to several thousand thoughts a day.Several psychological disorders produce changes in stream of thought. Manic states, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and anxiety often increase whereas depression and dementia often reduce it.

Thousands Of Thoughts, Literally

Many thoughts can be classified as spontaneous or involuntary. They spring to mind; they don’t feel deliberate. Some may be ideas or intuitions relevant to a current situation, intrusive thoughts linked to preoccupations, or “free associations” while the mind wanders. Some are recollections of autobiographical memories with some link to recent experiences.

The Spontaneous Thoughts

Where do spontaneous thoughts come from? An obvious source is environmental stimulation: the ideas evoked by what we see and hear. However, spontaneous thoughts often appear when the environment is relatively stable, like when walking a familiar path or sitting on a bus.Spontaneous thoughts often emerge from long-term memory, unconscious pieces of phrases, images, actions and ideas that also give rise to dreams. These mental construction blocks are the collective activity of networks of neurons in the brain’s grey matter whose connections have been strengthened by numerous experiences.

Spontaneous Thoughts’ Stimuli: External Or Internal?

These neural networks are ordinarily inactive, but when they are excited by other brain activity, such as a stimulus, a related thought or hunger, they compete for access to consciousness based on their strength. The competitive strength of networks is influenced by their relevance to our situation, but also to our goals, needs, interests or emotions. We think about food more easily when we are hungry but also when we have an important dinner to prepare.

Neural Networks Are Like Competitive Sprinters

Emotions play a key role in many types of spontaneous thoughts. For example, intrusive thoughts are forced upon us by emotions so that we focus on high-priority information like threats, frustrations or opportunities. Anxiety often produces intrusive thoughts pointing to real or imagined threats. In post-traumatic stress, it can cause repetitive flashbacks and ruminations.

The Relationship Of Emotions And Thoughts

While negative emotions make us focus on high priority content, positive emotions appear to facilitate more remote or unusual associations which increase memorization and creativity. During euphoria — intense happiness or pleasure that may be out of proportion to its causes — intrusive thoughts often include optimistic anticipations and imaginative ideas. Passion induces positive spontaneous thoughts.

The Urgent And The Abstract

Even during uneventful daily activities, weak emotions or microemotions such as worries, desires, irritation, stress, surprise or interest are involved in orienting many of our thoughts.Microemotions are brief and often unconscious. They mainly trigger micromovements like muscle tension or facial microexpressions and they produce small physiological reactions including adrenaline secretion and cardiovascular responses.

Microemotions

Micro-fears often trigger what-if thoughts and worries that maintain anxiety through a positive feedback loop; this in turn can be a source of insomnia. Microemotions of guilt or pride trigger moral intuitions of anticipated disapproval or approval of others, which are essential to develop pro-social behaviour such as co-operation, helpfulness and other types of behaviour that benefit others. Microemotions of boredom or craving for stimulation can trigger distraction or mind wandering and may underlie some symptoms of attention deficits.

The Many Products Of Microemotions

Microemotions influence our thoughts in a variety of ways. They distract our attention from its present object, they sensitize perceptual systems to notice things related to their dominant theme and they facilitate the retrieval of memories relevant to that theme. Microemotions are themselves triggered by a perception or an idea, often an unconscious one, that is significant enough to subtly activate emotional systems.

The Relationship Of Microemotions And Thoughts

Emotions can activate spontaneous thoughts through several brain circuits centred on a hub called the amygdala. That hub has access to our urges and desires activated in the low parts of our frontal lobe. It can interpret the emotional significance of perceptions or retrieved memories, and it can also influence them.

The Hub: The Amygdala

The amygdala hub also activates the brain’s amplifiers in the brain stem that feed neuromodulators like adrenaline and serotonin to the grey matter. These systems juice up the level of neural activity and steer it toward the theme that is consistent with the emotion. When the evoked thought is itself emotion-provoking, a self-sustaining loop is created between thought and emotion that is stopped by either distraction or cognitive processes.

The Bi-Directional Feedback Loop

In essence, spontaneous thoughts are largely motivated thoughts: every minute, feelings nudge our attention, our inner voice and our mental theatre in a specific direction. Better control of stress levels, emotions and daily experiences may improve the quality of these spontaneous thoughts and the satisfaction derived from them.

A “Mental” Mental Theatre

“Spontaneous” thoughts. “Micro” emotions. What of them? They sound harmless, trivial and insignificant. They are constant, continual and cumulative. They can have quite a malign macro impact. Think of them in juxtaposition to Death By a Thousand Cuts: a form of torture and execution. How harmless do they sound now?

Emotions play a key role in many types of spontaneous thoughts. Even microemotions — which are often fleeting and unconscious — can affect thoughts and influence attention.

The Thought-Emotion Loop & How Micro-emotions Can Lead to All-Consuming Thoughts

Do you find yourself noticing faint sensations that no one else can perceive? Are you startled easily? And is your mood easily swayed by the feelings of the people around you? If so, you may be a highly sensitive person (HSP), a personality profile that is of increasing interest to both scientists and armchair psychologists.

HSP persons

High sensitivity is often presented as a key contributor to depression and burnout. “A lot of people still think of it in terms of risk and vulnerability,” says Prof Corina Greven of the Radboud University medical centre in the Netherlands.The truth, however, is more complicated. Both high and low sensitivity can have advantages and disadvantages – it all depends on the context. And with a bit of self-knowledge about our place on the spectrum, we can all learn to find the right coping mechanisms to make the most of our personality profile.

Sensitivity & Vulnerability

Do you find yourself needing to withdraw during busy days, into bed or into a darkened room or any place where you can have some privacy and relief from stimulation?When people are uncomfortable in a physical environment do you tend to know what needs to be done to make it more comfortable (such as changing the lighting or the seating)?Do you find it unpleasant to have a lot going on at once?Does being very hungry create a strong reaction in you, disrupting your concentration or mood?Are you deeply moved by the arts or music?

Sensory Processing Sensitivity

Kanye West and Lorde say they are HSPs. What’s the science behind this newly popular label for understanding our ability to process feelings?

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Are you anxious, introverted or just a ‘highly sensitive person’?

"I can only show you the door, you're the one that has to walk through it"

A pre-production archive of the artwork and conceptual drawings prepared for the production of "The Matrix" offers storyboards, interviews with the artists and other participants, and other commentary, along with the script.

The art was the best thing about the movie. This book provides an opportunity to appreciate it without the blight of Keanu Reeves' acting. Serving as a pre-production archive of the work related to The Matrix, this coffee table edition includes the complete script, along with stills from the movie, four double-sided gatefolds featuring conceptual drawings, and commentary by the artists. Some in color, some in black and white, approximately 700 storyboards (including three cut from the final film) tell the story with a comic book sensibility. Author William Gibson provides an afterword. c. Book News Inc.

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The Art of The Matrix

"There is nothing outside of yourself that can ever enable you to get better, stronger, richer, quicker, or smarter. Everything is within. Everything exists. Seek nothing outside of yourself."Miyamoto Musashi

The Book of Five Rings By Musashi Miyamoto

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Musashi Miyamoto is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Musashi Miyamoto has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Musashi Miyamoto's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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The Book of Five Rings

"When helping others becomes the framework through which you interact with the world, you’ll find yourself at the top of many minds."

If you can tangibly improve your target audience’s quality of life, even in ways that seem minute, they’ll begin to think of you as a positive force in their lives. Do this consistently and your audience will reward you with top-of-mind status.

Being authentic, honest, and truthful is your best promotion, because if your customers trust you, then you will be the first thing that comes to their minds in case they need your goods or services.

What being top of mind means

<ul><li>Since today’s customers are not passive; they are even more suspicious of salespeople who don’t ask for permission to invade their privacy; a salesperson's job isn’t anymore that of a marketing rep, but the far more humble and noble of being a friend.</li><li>Customers today don’t like to buy from people who are intrusive. You can trick them once or twice, but the minute they find out, you’ll lose them for eternity. Them and about a million other people who’ll find out about it on social media. So instead of tricking them – earn their trust.</li></ul>

Focus on building trust

"Authenticity is the foundation of your relationship with your audience. But for the relationship to flourish, it’s not enough to simply be authentic; you also have to deliver tangible value."

To get to your customers’ “top of mind,” you need to earn their approval. And you can do that the very same way you would get the approval of people you’d like to be your friends: by expressing genuine concern about their likes and dislikes, by establishing a type of communication between you two that’s based on mutual trust and commitment.Most importantly, by helping your customers from time to time without seeking any compensation.

Selling 101 has morphed into Altruism 101

"When you educate people, you are empowering them. … Content’s potential as an educational tool is limitless. Use it to share whatever knowledge you have that others will find valuable."

Staying in touch with the needs of your audience and sharing information they can use is one of the best ways to give to and help them. The most scalable way to help them is through creating and publishing content. You can exponentially expand the number of ways you can help people and the number of lives you can effect through content.

Share your knowledge, experiences and resources with your audience

Creating written content is a daunting task for many of us, from the solopreneur to the CEO. Lack of time and inspiration keeps us procrastinating and pushing this critical activity further down our to-do lists. Fear of being a bad writer also sabotages our efforts.Try the practice of “morning pages”. Rather than waiting for inspiration to strike, it’s easier and more helpful to adhere to a habit of daily writing. Writing every morning encourages and allows for more creativity and it will also help to dispel the fear of writing.

Create a writing ritual

"Like helpfulness, authentic likability is a practice. It can’t be forced, but it can be developed through everyday thoughts and actions."

<ul><li>Likability matters. It’s hard to trust someone you don’t like. Finding that balance starts with understanding yourself and your personality and exactly what kind of “likable” you want to be.</li><li>Familiarity is the other side of the likability coin—it evokes a sense of closeness, a feeling of genuine connection. Familiarity emerges at its purest in face-to-face conversation.</li></ul>

Likability and familiarity

If you treat your brand as an afterthought, you’re simply fortifying the barriers between yourself and opportunity creation. A vibrant, flourishing brand is one of your most powerful tools in creating trust and opportunity.Take a look at Tesla. If you’re not a luxury electric vehicle industry insider, you may not know much about the inner workings of the company. Chances are, however, that you’re familiar with Elon Musk’s reputation as a rocket scientist/climate activist/genius innovator.

Brand and thought leadership

Have you ever read an article that feels like it was written especially for you? Maybe it answers a specific question you’ve had on your mind for a while or it gives you some piece of advice that seems tailor-made to your life situation. When this happens, it creates a sense of connection to the author that makes you want to read everything she’s ever written and anything she’ll ever write.

Content triggers

That is because knowledge is power. When you educate people, you are empowering them.One of the most effective and easily scalable ways to unify these practices is through high-quality digital content.Content’s potential as an educational tool is limitless. Use it to share whatever knowledge you have that others will find valuable—industry insight, best practices, experiential learnings—and they will reward you with trust.

Education is the most important trust point 

A game-changing framework for staying top of mind with your audience―from the No. 1 company dominating content marketing What do many successful businesses and leaders have in common? They’re the first names that come to mind when people think about their particular industries. How do you achieve this level of trust that influences people to think of you in the right way at the right time? By developing habits and strategies that focus on engaging your audience, creating meaningful relationships, and delivering value consistently, day in and day out. It’s the winning approach John Hall used to build Influence & Co. into one of “America’s Most Promising Companies,” according to Forbes. In this step-by-step guide, he shows you how to use content to keep your brand front and center in the minds of decision makers who matter. He reveals: • how consumer needs and expectations have changed and what this shift means for you • how to build a helpful, authentic, and consistent brand that serves others just as well as it serves you • proven methods for using digital content to enrich your target audience’s lives in ways that build real, lasting trust Whether you’re a marketing leader engaging an audience of potential customers, a business leader looking to humanize your company brand, or an industry up-and-comer seeking to build influence, maintaining a prominent spot in your audience’s minds will increase the likelihood that the moment they need to make a choice, you’ll be the first one they call. There’s no better way to drive opportunities that result in increased revenue and growth. Business is never “just” business. It’s always about relationships. It’s always about a human connection. When you’re viewed as a valuable, trustworthy partner, the opportunities are endless. Position yourself for success by establishing and developing content-driven relationships that keep you and your brand Top of Mind.

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A game-changing framework for staying top of mind with your audience―from the No. 1 company dominating content marketingWhat do many successful businesses and leaders have in common? They’re the first names that come to mind when people think about their particular industries. How do you achieve this level of trust that influences people to think of you in the right way at the right time? By developing habits and strategies that focus on engaging your audience, creating meaningful relationships, and delivering value consistently, day in and day out.It’s the winning approach John Hall used to build Influence & Co. into one of “America’s Most Promising Companies,” according to Forbes. In this step-by-step guide, he shows you how to use content to keep your brand front and center in the minds of decision makers who matter. He reveals:• how consumer needs and expectations have changed and what this shift means for you • how to build a helpful, authentic, and consistent brand that serves others just as well as it serves you • proven methods for using digital content to enrich your target audience’s lives in ways that build real, lasting trust Whether you’re a marketing leader engaging an audience of potential customers, a business leader looking to humanize your company brand, or an industry up-and-comer seeking to build influence, maintaining a prominent spot in your audience’s minds will increase the likelihood that the moment they need to make a choice, you’ll be the first one they call. There’s no better way to drive opportunities that result in increased revenue and growth. Business is never “just” business. It’s always about relationships. It’s always about a human connection. When you’re viewed as a valuable, trustworthy partner, the opportunities are endless. Position yourself for success by establishing and developing content-driven relationships that keep you and your brand Top of Mind.

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Top of Mind: Use Content to Unleash Your Influence and Engage Those Who Matter To You

On to the list of books that make you smarter.

Begi

This 2011 bestseller by Nobel Laureate Kahneman is an intriguing account of the way the human brain works, with its two main manners of thinking and coming to decisions: namely, fast and slow. How do they differ? Is one of them better? Kahneman seeks to explore this, and more.

1. Thinking, Fast and Slow  by Daniel Kahneman

A deeply compelling exploration of human history, Harari’s work delves into the evolution of the human species, from the time that Homo Sapiens shared the earth with others, to the contemporary human, and beyond. It tracks the three great revolutions that altered the course of humankind, and the way our brains and cultures developed and expanded.

2. Sapiens: A     Brief History of Humankind    by Yuval Noah Harari.

This short book undertakes to stimulate your brain in order to prevent its aging and loss of capabilities. It consists in a series of spreadsheets with daily exercises to boost your brainpower. A bestseller in Japan, it’s a practical and engaging way to stimulate your mind.

3. Train Your Brain: 60 Days to a Better Brain

This wildly popular book can boast of divulging complex scientific topics in an intelligible, accessible manner. Bryson wrote it in order to make science interesting for himself as well as the everyday reader. With a rating of 4.2 stars on Goodreads, it’s fair to say that he succeeded.

4. A Short History of Nearly Everything    by Bill Bryson

It is a heart-wrenching yet inspiring account of the power of learning and reading, as well as an exploration of the ways in which slavery was denigrating for slaves and slaveowners alike (this doesn’t negate the responsibility or evil of the latter).

5. Narrative of the Life of Frederick Douglass    by Frederick Douglass

It contains the most important document(s) of both Judaism and Christianity, and has been wielded as a weapon throughout most of its history. Depending on whose hands it has fallen in, it has been both a blessing and curse. Whether you’re a believer or not, it’s an interesting account of two of the most prominent religions in the world.

6. The Holy Bible

If reading the Bible is important, the Quran is equally so. Islam has been subjected to incredibly gross attacks for years, and its cornerstone text provides a deeper understanding of another of the most followed – and persecuted – religions of our time.

Quran

Morin’s book offers practical, actionable advice to stimulate emotional intelligence. She draws from her experience as a licensed clinical social worker, and her own journey through devastating loss, to sketch a map of qualities that help build emotional resilience.

8. 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do  by Amy Morin

Hawking wrote this definitive account of cosmology for the non-scientist who wished to know more about this fascinating science. Updated throughout the years, A Brief History of Time remains unsurpassed as an introduction to the topic.

9. A Brief History of Time    by Stephen Hawking

A list of books that make you smarter, in order to boost your intelligence and general knowledge of the world and the human brain.

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10 Books That Make You Smarter | Book Riot

It's simple things in life that are the most extraordinary; only wise men are able to understand them.

The closer one gets to realizing his destiny, the more that destiny becomes his true reason for being

The dunes are changed by the winds but the desert never changes.

It's not what enters men's mouth that's evil, it's what comes out of their mouths that is.

Tell your heart the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself.

Most people see the world as a threatening place and, beacuse they do, the world turns out, indeed, to be a threatening place.

When you possess great treasures within you, and try ro tell others of them, seldom are you believed

Some of the quotes from book 'The Alchemist'. A great book giving inspiration to anyone seeking path in their life.

A special 25th anniversary edition of the extraordinary international bestseller, including a new Foreword by Paulo Coelho. Combining magic, mysticism, wisdom and wonder into an inspiring tale of self-discovery, The Alchemist has become a modern classic, selling millions of copies around the world and transforming the lives of countless readers across generations. Paulo Coelho's masterpiece tells the mystical story of Santiago, an Andalusian shepherd boy who yearns to travel in search of a worldly treasure. His quest will lead him to riches far different—and far more satisfying—than he ever imagined. Santiago's journey teaches us about the essential wisdom of listening to our hearts, of recognizing opportunity and learning to read the omens strewn along life's path, and, most importantly, to follow our dreams.

A special 25th anniversary edition of the extraordinary international bestseller, including a new Foreword by Paulo Coelho.Combining magic, mysticism, wisdom and wonder into an inspiring tale of self-discovery, The Alchemist has become a modern classic, selling millions of copies around the world and transforming the lives of countless readers across generations.Paulo Coelho's masterpiece tells the mystical story of Santiago, an Andalusian shepherd boy who yearns to travel in search of a worldly treasure. His quest will lead him to riches far different—and far more satisfying—than he ever imagined. Santiago's journey teaches us about the essential wisdom of listening to our hearts, of recognizing opportunity and learning to read the omens strewn along life's path, and, most importantly, to follow our dreams.

Paulo Coelho de Souza is a Brazilian lyricist and novelist and a member of the Brazilian Academy of Letters since 2002. His novel The Alchemist became an international best-seller and he has published 30 more books since then.

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