It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own.

Our obsession with others’ opinions of us likely stems from the brain’s tribal aged instincts— stuck in a point of evolution when disapproval could have meant abandonment, and abandonment could mean death.

Age Of The Individual 

Being liked by everyone or becoming popular on social media— these are “preferred indifferents.” They’d be nice to experience, but the absence of these experiences does not hinder our true ability to achieve happiness, at all.

Preferred Indifferent

What is to be prized? An audience clapping? No. No more than the clacking of their tongues. Which is all that public praise amounts to – a clacking of tongues.

When another blames you or hates you, or when men say anything injurious about you, approach their poor souls, penetrate within, and see what kind of men they are. You will discover that there is no reason to be concerned that these men have this or that opinion about you.

Stoic emperor Marcus Aurelius—despite being one of the most talked-about men in history—managed not to care what others may have thought of him.

The ancient Stoics were ahead of time when it comes to the art of not caring about how others perceived them. How did the manage to not care about opnions?

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When— maybe after a pleasant stretch of self-compassion & confidence— we’ve realized our own faults & failures, the immediate response may be similarly directed doubts. Maybe we’re just generally wrong, overall inexcusable, or wholly idiotic. Worst of all, maybe we’re just a bad person.”

Mistake? Panic! 

But what if we instead told ourselves a different story? A small dose of self-pity can be sobering, considering life is a series of events that we’ve—for the most part— not chosen ourselves. How could we have known any better? No one seems to have all the answers— certainly not us— & living the unblemished life in a world of chaos isn’t easy.

Reassuring Acceptance

We can either choose the self-story which demands, “How could you be so stupid, you pathetic wretch?” Or the one which reassures, “To err is human, but to cling to our shame is unnecessary.” Maybe this time we can try giving ourselves a break, instead of beating ourselves up.

Two Stories 

Why we might benefit—in face of our shortcomings— from giving ourselves a break. 

Read our article - Of Course We Mess Up!. The School Of Life has a huge collection of interesting articles, read now.

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The student did not want to face fear, but it was nonetheless time to do so. He approached, and asked permission to combat Fear, who garnered the student’s respect with its size & might.

The Battle

Fear, in acknowledgement of the student’s respectfulness & humility, answered him outright, “My weapons are that I talk fast & get close to your face. Then you get unnerved, and do whatever I say.”

Fear’s Weapons  

Fear continued: “You can listen to me, you can have respect for me, & you can even be convinced by me— but if you do not do what I say, I have no power.” In that way, the student learned how to overcome Fear.

Defeating Fear 

The Buddhist story of how one student faced & learned to overcome Fear.

LIFE WITHOUT FEAR - a buddhist story about fear is another Dare to do. Motivation story video about how wonderful life can be if we only understand and accept fear as what it is: a factor for growth for human development Please let me know in the comments below what fear is for you and as ylaways: STAAAY BLESSED! Support me : https://paypal.me/daretodomotivation Listen to your heart...be happy...don't give up and always believe! ===================================================================================================================== Hi everybody i write and speak most of the speeches myself, so if you need some material or want to do some sort of collaboration, feel free to contact me : kori.sarian@hotmail.com Speaker: Dare to do.MOTIVATION https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5VP2Yr-U7PHyDKHQQfkH9w?disable_polymer=true ===================================================================================================================== Music Search: Francesco D'Andrea - With some Malice REW - Fig Wasp ====================================================================================================================== *FAIR-USE COPYRIGHT DISCLAIMER* Copyright Disclaimer Under Section 107 of the Copyright Act 1976, allowance is made for "fair use" for purposes such as criticism, commenting, news reporting, teaching, scholarship, and research. Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing. Non-profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use. 1)This video has no negative impact on the original works (It would actually be positive for them) 2)This video is also for teaching purposes. 3)It is not transformative in nature. 4)I only used bits and pieces of videos to get the point across where necessary. DARE to do. MOTIVATION does not own the rights to these video clips. They have, in accordance with fair use, been repurposed with the intent of educating and inspiring others. However, if any content owners would like their images removed, please contact us by email at KORI.SARIAN@HOTMAIL.COM

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LIFE WITHOUT FEAR - a buddhist story about fear

Melancholy isn’t bad, nor is it a wholly negative feeling, the purpose of which might be to motivate the changing of one’s circumstances for the better. Rather, it’s an emotional admission of the inevitability & commonality of life’s less idealistic realities.

Not A Problem 

The melancholy sensation, unlike anger, does not entertain an obligation that life ought to feel easy or cheerful overall— or for that matter, objectively clear or linearly interpreted. It acknowledges the paradoxes of desire; for instance, wanting to feel secure but also to feel free. (Or, maybe to feel the introverted relief of silence in unison with the extroverted disappointment of loneliness).

Paradoxes Of Desire

Melancholy poems, songs, & other creative expressions mirror our own personal griefs in a yet impersonal, universal way. In a melancholy state, we neither feel upset about, singled out by, nor averse to these misfortunes, but dispassionately accepting of humanity’s and life’s true, middling nature.

Art & Acceptance  

Why “Melancholy” is noble & natural, a less averse & more honest emotion. 

Read our article - On Melancholy. The School Of Life has a huge collection of interesting articles, read now.

On Melancholy - The School Of Life

The last emperor of India’s Mauryan Dynasty, Ashoka became a patron of Buddhism after witnessing the suffering caused by his military conquest of Kalinga. Following this, he renounced violence in favor of “conquest by Dharma.”

Ashoka The Great Buddhist 

Ashoka adopted the Buddhist virtues of honesty, compassion, humility, & non-violence. As a ruler with perhaps the power to outcast minority religions, Ashoka nonetheless exercised & encouraged tolerance & respect for all spiritual alignments.

New Principles 

Ashoka appointed “Dharma Ministers,” public servants—especially attentive to gender & religious minorities—who also reported the state of the general citizenship to Ashoka frequently. Under his rule, the government constructed hospitals, veterinary hospitals, wells, & other public-serving structures.

Dharma Government 

The Emperor had stupas & monasteries built, along with pillars inscribed with his interpretations of just spirituality & philosophy. He sent his own children as preaching missionaries to Sri Lanka, & made personal efforts to settle disputes within the Sangha (or Buddhist community).

Patronage Projects 

Ashoka the Great was the ideal Chakravartin ruler, who used Buddhism as a template for just & benevolent governance. 

Ashoka, also spelled Aśoka,  (died 238? bce,  India), last major emperor of the Mauryan dynasty of India. His vigorous patronage of Buddhism during his reign (c. 265–238 bce; also given as c. 273–232 bce) furthered the expansion of that religion throughout India. Following his successful but bloody conquest of the Kalinga country on the east coast, Ashoka renounced armed conquest and adopted a policy that he called “conquest by dharma” (i.e., by principles of right life). In order to gain wide publicity for his teachings and his work, Ashoka made them known by means of oral announcements and by engravings

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Om Mani Padme Hum. This is perhaps the most common mantra, said to embody compassion & the core of Buddhism— to skillfully alleviate all suffering. The Lotus is often a symbol of enlightenment, as the flower blossoms only amidst the mud.

Jewel Of The Lotus

Om Tare Tuttare Ture Soha. The Green Tara is thought of as a motherly figure who will come to her child’s aid in any instance of distress. This mantra, like others, entails deliverance from suffering in favor of compassion.

Green Tara 

Om Muni Muni Mahamuni Shakyamuniye Svaha. The Buddha figure we most often think of is Shakyamuni Buddha, once Siddhartha Gautama. This mantra is a means of praising & remembering the historical Buddha’s wisdom & teachings.

Homage To The Historical Buddha 

Om Ami Dewa Hrih. Amitabha was so devoted to helping others achieve peace, he also hoped that reciting his name 108 times would grant rebirth in a Pure Land.

Amitabha Buddha 

A handful of Buddhist mantras for peace, protection, & spiritual discipline.  

4 Powerful Buddhist Mantras

The idea comes from psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott— that what we fear will happen has already happened. Childhood traumas, even the mildest ones which simply came alongside natural powerlessness and dependency, can linger below our awareness & be misplaced in time.

It’s About The Past  

Without working through the specifics of each childhood incident & its consequential fear, we can at least feel better—in general—by consciously remembering that we’re not children anymore. We are far less powerless & dependent, but far more powerful & independent; therefore, fears don’t have to be faced with fragility, but the endowed confidence of matured life experience & life positioning.

The Power Of Adulthood 

Fears of the future may often be childhood misfortunes, somewhat misplaced in time by our adult subconsciouses. 

Read our article - On Being Scared All the Time. The School Of Life has a huge collection of interesting articles, read now.

On Being Scared All the Time - The School Of Life

We blush when we’ve admitted the uncomfortable possibility of having offended, inconvenienced, or misled someone. This discomfort is a sign of our disdain for personal arrogance; we hold ourselves—sometimes seemingly against our will—to the standards of honesty & humility.

The Blush- When & Why 

We recognize our ability to annoy & harm others in the absence of self-awareness. The underlying questions behind a blush, such as “Does the person with whom I’m infatuated feel the same?” kindly consider the independence of others, & the profound reality of uncertainty.

The Good Of Blushing 

Perhaps the person who never blushes is worse-off: so certain of everything as to think and act arrogantly, with entitlement & a disregard for self-awareness— particularly of one’s own power to affect others through words and actions.

The Non-Blusher 

You shouldn’t feel so fearful & unforgiving of yourself that your every word & action is up to your own critical scrutiny. Self-awareness pairs well with confidence— sociability with humbleness, & kindness with self-respect.

Striking A Balance 

The uncomfortable blood pressure spike & reddening of the face is perhaps not such a misfortune, after all. 

Read our article - In Praise of Blushing. The School Of Life has a huge collection of interesting articles, read now.