Very few people walk this earth who aren't or haven't ever been addicted to one thing or the other. Addictions are habits that are beyond ones control (apparently) and consumption of which would lead to suffering and severe withdrawal symptom's.

Addiction

While it is easy to understand if someone is addicted to something, it is hard to identify the reason behind such addictions. People get addicted to things they might not even like. Things like tobacco or alcohol which might not taste good to the person consuming it, but they can't live without having it.

Why do we get addicted

While there might be a whole lot of neuroscientific stuff I have no idea about, the reasoning behind addiction. But, from what I have gathered after living a life where I have been addicted to various things. I have come to a realization that addiction is a mask to hide from raw unprocessed emotions.

Unprocessed Emotions

Rather than working on the emotions and finding out the cause of hurt, we as humans latch onto the momentary reliefs, which come in the form of addictions. Anytime we feel hurt, we would watch a video, play video game or smoke it out! Chasing momentary bliss and keeping the emotions unresolved keeps us hooked to our addictions.

The momentary Bliss

True happiness is understanding yourself and then living a life according to that understanding. Addictions makes us dumb, in the sense, it  robs us of our inner workings. With no free time available, we feel this is what life is, and thus accept suffering as part of life. Although, nobody can walk the earth without knowing what it is to suffer, it is easier to navigate the suffering when you understand how you work!

Seeking Happiness

Self-discovery is a path that should be travelled by every soul. I write to seek out to everyone, and even if "ONE" reads it and feels a change, that's a BIG WIN!

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Psychology

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Mindfulness

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Mental Health

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Meditation

Are addictions actually emotions?

Does everything I write needs to be inspirational, make sense and be sellable to the masses. Or, can I just write something for myself and publish it, without a care in the world, if it would be read by even a single soul out there.

I just wanted to write something

It is one thing to say that I don't care if people read what I write or not. But, the reality is, when the metrics arrive, when those numbers go up, when people like, save and do all that nice stuff, a part of me feels good.

I want to not care, but I care

To not care isn't nihilism. Nihilists too do care about not caring. To absolutely not care is the ultimate goal. To be free from the attachment of things that aren't in our control. And be in absolute control of our own thoughts and emotions is the ultimate end of all suffering and pain.

The idea is...to be free of that care

If I write not for it to be read by "You", but I write for "I love writing". I shall become a better writer. Not that I wasn't always a better writer, but when I don't expect my writings to win accolades, I write with clarity, and when I write with clarity, I write me...and me is the best writer I know!

So yes....I can just write anything!

If you are interested even after reading that title, peek in!

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Productivity

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Personal Development

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Creativity

Blah..Blu..Blum

What is life? It's how you look at it! It is the most beautiful and the most tragic of things. It is light and dark, and however it may seem that everything is out there, when you will truly see, you will realize that everything was all along, truly inside. And that...that is the beauty of life!

Life

Who are you? The most shallow and the most profound question. Shallow when it is reduced to a resume, profound when meditated, contemplated and understood. You aren't bound by what you possess, you are bound by what you think you possess. And once you understand your own confines, you shall set free. And that free you...is you!

There is you...

Who is you, but not you? You! Aren't you lost, trying to find, what you have lost, growing up, trying to find it, out there. Like joy, happiness, pleasure and everything delightful lies beyond a golden gate  of treasures. And not that they lay right there where you suffer? What makes more sense, to believe that only you can suffer and only you can feel joy, or that joy and suffering lays beyond your realm?

And then there's the "Not You"

Life is weird...it's an open book! A seeker's paradise, and hell simultaneously. For some though, it shall remain a constant prison. One where they think they know are free, but where they have been confined by forces they shall never know. We are the prisoners of our own mind, and we shall never escape...not until we know, truly know!

Some of us would never know

There is a light in all of us...most of us...some of us! Light is there, stowed away under the tarp of societal bounds and mental hell. You do exist, an independent, unbothered, carefree you. Who rejoices the joyful and suffers the painful, but never breaks. And that...is where lies true freedom...seek true freedom!

Keep fighting

Well, in the journey of finding my true self, I find a lot of roadblocks. Blocks that don't truly exists, but are a constant source of suffering. Something that is personal to me, but also public. I shall win this war...while you read and witness the battle!

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Philosophy

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Health

Live life, don't autopilot it!

Contrary to popular belief, ego isn't something that is only found in an arrogant person, but it is actually something that exists withing all of us. Ego is our perception of who we are. Ego is our identity, and the way we perceive it. See how I emphasize on "Perception". Well, that's where the problem begins to lives most miseries and that is where most problems end, once we are able to grab hold of what ego is, and how it works, let's take a look.

What is Ego?

Not diving into the historical aspect of why ego came into being, let's take a look at why it exists! Ego exists to protect us and also to make us feel good about ourselves. If Ego is the perception of our identity, it means ego would fight tooth and nail to protect that identity. Doesn't matter if the sense of self be a hinderance in personal growth, our ego would do anything to protect us from changing what has been working and has been comfortable.

Purpose of Ego

Ego thrives on comparisons. There are people who think too highly of themselves, and those who beat themselves up for the tinies of mistakes. These people, both of them struggles with a very potent and overwhelming ego. Ego loves to beat others down to make itself look good or undermine itself to make oneself believe that growth isn't possible, so why bother change?

Comparisons

Now, coming back to the point about perceptions. If you truly analyze what ego is, it is just a part of your brain-mind ecosystem. It exists, but it exists within you. It isn't who you are. But, rather people who suffer from the wrath of ego tend to have this false belief that their ego is their whole identity.

Ego isn't you

If I propose that you aren't your ego, then it is natural to ask, who are you? The answer is simple and yet complicated. In its truest essence, you are no one. You are a conscience that see, feel and act. Your identity is just a layer of clothing that you chose to wear. Once you truly strip yourself of your ego, your true unmarked self shall reveal, and in that lay all the solution to all your problems.

Who are you?

There might be a hundred different ways. One that I know of, that has worked for me. However, it is still very much a work in progress. It is meditation. To meditate is to see, beyond decades of masks and layers, to know who you truly are. Meditation helps you seek your true self. Therapy and other techniques might also work, but I won't know, as meditation starts with you, it is cheap and probably the most effective way, I would suggest this. It might not be for you, but you won't know, until you try!

How to find your true self?

I have suffered a lot. Nearly 28 years of my life. Only now that I stand on the brink of 29th I see peace and happiness. True peace, that emanates from within and doesn't need an external source to shine bright. I wish the same for anyone and everyone who comes to earth. I think we all deserve to be happy, if nothing else. Let's try our best. Let's not be prisoner to our own personal hell.

End your suffering

I have been dealing with mental health issues for as long as I remember taking breath. I always seeked external methods of fixing myself. Only to realize that my suffering doesn't originate in the outside world, but rather it comes from within.

Ego...the silent killer!

A simple question, with a seemingly simple answer. But, if we know from our years of existence, it is that the simplest of questions often have the most complex answers. So, again...are you your thoughts?

Are you your thoughts?

Well...stay with me. I am not going philoshopical here. We are just trying to look at the facts, and decipher the truth. A rather scientific approach at the divine manifestation, that is our mind.

Yes...And...No

This is the most obvious and widely accepted answer. And it is not hard to see why. People's behaviour and personality are based on their thoughts. The way they think is the way they behave. And thus, most often than not, we are our thoughts, or as perceived by others.

This is the complex part. Our actions are surely derived from our thoughts. But, weirdly we also have an eagle's eye vision of our own actions. We feel regret, feel wrong, or right about the way we think or behave.

And..NO

If you really think about it, and truly try to understand how you work. What you will realize is, that you have the power to disconnect from your thoughts and look at yourself as an observer. You aren't your thoughts. Your thoughts are but a part of you.

The two voices

Let me try and break it down further for you. Are you your teeth? Probably not! Teeth are a part of who you are, but they hardly impact your day to day life. Until, they start aching, or if there's an issue with them. You truly understand the power of your teeth once you feel its pain. In the same vein, a broken brain that spews dillusional thoughts of self-hate, work in the same way as a broken tooth. You can't live a happy life with an aching tooth, you can't live a fulfilling life with a broken mind.

The Broken tooth

Meditation is the way to finding your true self. When you see yourself as a third person, are able to understand every aspect of who you truly are, and then let go of the damaged and broken thoughts. That's the way to salvation and leading a healthy happy life. Don't let the aching tooth ache, treat it, it's possible. Just seek the right guidance, that's all!

Meditate

Recently, I have been on the path of self-discovery. I am learning things about myself, that sound so basic, but when truly understood and integrated can have a life-changing impact. This was something that truly blew me away!

Are You Defined by Your Thoughts? Regain Control NOW!

I have been doing a lot of introspection lately. Meditation, research and basically understanding how I work. I think this is something truly basic that has gone missing in today's world. A world that has formulas, sigma grind and other self-help materials available that seeks to provide a one solution for all problems. The problem is, that, there isn't one solution to all problems. The only solution according to me, is the solution you can find within you. And to find a solution within you, you have to understand who you are. Here's where my 3 step method comes in.

Introduction

Although, every step in the 3 step process is as crucial as any other. This, is where the foundation is laid. Here, it will be determined whether you have made an honest attempt, or just half-assed your way. Awareness is the key to understanding yourself. Being aware is simply, having a complete understand of who you are as a person. I am lazy, I don't like working out, I hate waking up early, I get frustrated easily. Being aware is observing yourself as a 3rd person, and realizing who you are, without reserving any judgments or biases.

Awareness

When you are aware of who you are, and when you are in the process of becoming aware, there would be a rational part of your brain that would say, it's not true. I am not lazy, I just don't feel like working right now, I am not addicted to smoking, I just do it sometimes, etc, etc. That is your mind pushing against and fighting for you. Your ego won't let you believe things that goes against what you want to think you are. But, here's where the brain plays tricks on you to make you feel comfortable. Let go of that ego, and accept who you truly are. If you are lazy, you are lazy, no ifs or buts

Acceptance

Once you are aware of who you are, and accepted who you are, then and only then you have a true potential for growth. Because now, you know the truth. Now, that you know that you are lazy, and accept it, you can work on it to make yourself more productive. Until and unless you don't see reality for what it is, and let your brain wield the power, it will steer you into a life of comfort, which only leads to despair and depression. Become aware, accept that awareness and let yourself grow. That is my system for growth. The only way forward for you, is for you to know who you truly are.

Growth

These ideas have come after a lot of introspection. I truly believe that everyone, no matter who they are, or where they are have a chance to grow and be happy. This is something I have understood to be the system of growth for me. Check it out!

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Motivation & Inspiration

My Mantra for True Growth!

Today I will be sharing with you all, at surface level what seems to be a very minute and easily dismissible idea, but one, that when truly understood has potential beyond imaginations. It is something that truly guided me towards the right path, and helped me find the missing piece in me that I thought would be never be found.

An idea that changed my life, for real!

I am someone who has sunk their teeth in self-help, motivational videos and books and other stuff to find inner peace. To grow as a human being and to find true happiness. But, if you've any idea about the reality, it's really really difficult to read a book or watch a video and find something that would actually be life changing. For me, I found that idea form of a Youtuber. HealthyGamerGG!

Origin of the Idea

The idea is very simple. But, you have to be open-minded to understand the idea, and shed some ego to actually implement it. Because, the idea would sound so simple that you would actually think of just brushing it off as another fad and move on. However, I would seriously recommend trying it out before shredding it. So, here it goes. Anytime, anywhere, whenever you have a negative emotion come to you in a situation. When you get angry, sad or defensive. Just ask a simple question to yourself. "Buddy, what happened, why did you feel this way?"

The idea: A simple Questions, "WHY"

Once you ask yourself this simple "why did you feel this way" question. You would be awestruck by the answer that might come from you. You didn't feel anger because someone said something bad about you, you felt angered because You have an insecurity about the thing that made you angry. And you're letting it out on the person who just pointed it out.

The Dialogue

Once, you understand that you felt that way because you think there is something wrong with you. That is the moment when you truly have to understand your brain. Dig deep and ask yourself, that whatever insecurity you have, is it really true?

Finding the Truth

When you ask the question, is it really true, what you will realize is that your brain has been lying to you. Your brain after some traumatic experience has protected itself inside a coating where it weaves stories and facts that aren't real. To understand that you exist outside of your brain. To realize that your brain does lie to you, and might be delusional, is where the real magic happens.

Viola! 

<ol><li>Asking why do you feel that way! followed by</li><li>Is it the truth</li></ol>That is the path to true emotional liberation. Don't let your mind be in control of a deluded brain. You can't always trust your brain, but you can always figure it out how it works. This has been something truly revolutionary for me. I hope it helps you all.

The Truth Sets you Free

I have been liberated, set free of my fragmented vision of myself, and now I feel obligated to guide others on the same path. I would love for anyone who feel anxiety or feel depressed in their day to day lives, reach out to a doctor first, but if you can't for some reason, reach out to me, and we can have a blast. A really awesome conversation.My IG: /notgingerbutadiemail: adisingh7@live.com

Reach out to me...

I have found a tool that has set me free. I would love for everyone to know and understand how to do it, and thus I feel obligated to share it with everyone!

Set Yourself Free: Emotional Healing

I've cowered through life, loathing every moment of existence, finding ways to be disrespectful and demeaning to myself. Only to reach a place in life to gain perspective to live better and love thyself. Although, it comes at such a late stage, I'd want nothing but to share this perspective to those who are looking and to those who aren't, especially to the ones who aren't, cause they'd be needing it the most.

It's All About Perspective 

My hatred towards self stemmed, some from childhood trauma, some from the constant yearning to please others. But, mainly from me constantly feeling less amongst my peers, and generally just anyone about me. Anyone I saw, looked perfect. And I belittled myself trying to impress the perfect beings around me. Unless I had the crucial perspective change that changed my life.

Everyone Is Perfect

Yes, this is where my life took a turn. The moment I realised that I'm neither lesser nor better than anyone around me. Rather, when broken down, we're all the same. Different lives, trying to make sense of the world, with their own insecurities and imperfections. At the end of the day, we're all just little pieces of fawked up beings. And your imperfections aren't more imperfect than anyone else's around.

We Are All Just Fawked Up

After you've gained this perspective, easier said than done, but once you truly embrace this idea that nobody matters, and everybody matters at the same time. Is the time you let go of your ego, and let go of your shame, and be truly you. And the truly you, is a kind hearted empathetic being, cause everyone's the same. Everyone is you...and nobody is you...and that's the beauty of being.

Not Shame, Not Ego, But Empathy!

Perspective 

Behind every success is a strong foundation. So is the case behind being a failure. If you believe that you are a failure, nothing can stop you from getting there. Manifest your beliefs and keep moving bakcwards.

Believe That You Are A Failure

Nothing sounds failure like someone who loves shifting blame. It's never your fault. It's the fault of your parents, teachers, environment, and when there's nothing, it's probably the bad weather. If you're a failure, you know, it's not your responsibility to succeed. Just put it all on everyone else.

Blame Everyone But Yourself

What is the purpose of life? Nothing! Precisely. No need to wake up early, worry about a job, caring about your family. Life has no meaning. And so, you can take a grand chill on life and take a big nap as you wait for the looming death. Nothing screams failure like a couch potato. Just add a few packets of chips, and you are golden.

Let It All Drift

And in the end. It's all about inspiring others. You are being a failure so other's can look at you and say, I'm not going to be that person. You either become an inspiration by being a success or you be one by being a failure. An inspiration is an inspiration. And being a failure is easier than being a success. So choose wisely!

Be An Inspiration

To understand failure is in itself a success.

How to be a failure?

What a great great song this. Anytime this song plays my workout intensity doubles, a great song for those HIIT sessions, or a heavy lifting one in the gym. You can be the greatest....you can be the best!

Hall Of Fame (The Script)

This song fills you up with emotions of joy and rage. Rage might be subject to me, but the emotions are certainly there. It's a song about not giving up, and always keep fighting, and what place screams that more than your workout spot. Give it your all, with fight song!

Fight Song (Rachel Platten)

The song that needs no introduction. A classic, with clear visual aid for you to pump when the time comes. The song makes me feel like Rocky and my workout session a montage where I will end up being a champ! Hell yeah!

Eye of The Tiger (Survivor)

Oh Naruto! This theme is so high, that it may just bring the dead back for a run! The consistent surge of emotions when the song plays, with the countless never give up moments of Naruto just gives you the right adrenaline boost for a great great workout session!