<p>You know what prevents people from being truly happy? Obsession with other people's opinions. You like your job, but friends and family find it useless and uncool. You like a man, but your girlfriends are turning their noses in contempt. You like putting jam on your meatballs but your family finds it weird. These situations are bound to make us feels completely uncomfortable. And in 8 out of 10 cases we give up on what we actually like.</p><p><strong>Advice from the wise: </strong>ask yourself what you really need. Living in harmony with your inner self - that's the secret of true happiness.<em> </em></p><p><em>Remember: others' approval or disapproval is just smoke on the water. The weather changes and it appears, yet with the slightest blow of the wind it sways and disappeared. Someone else's opinion is subjective and does not play any role in your fate. </em></p><p><strong>Free your self-esteem from the obsession with the opinion of others. Only happiness and inner peace can really help you succeed. And happiness and inner peace come to those who stay true to themselves!  </strong></p>

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        <div></div><p>You know what prevents people from being truly happy? Obsession with other people's opinions. You like your job, but friends and family find it useless and uncool. You like a man, but your girlfriends are turning their noses in contempt. You like putting jam on your meatballs but your family finds it weird. These situations are bound to make us feels completely uncomfortable. And in 8 out of 10 cases we give up on what we actually like.</p><p><b> Advice from the wise:</b> ask yourself what you really need. Living in harmony with your inner self - that's the secret of true happiness.<i></i></p><h2>How does it work?</h2><p>In the words of Marcus Aurelius: «I have often wondered how it is that every man loves himself more than all the rest of men, but yet sets less value on his own opinions of himself than on the opinions of others.»</p><div><img src="http://img.motiday.ru/146916470430.jpg"/><div></div></div><p><b>Why does this happen?</b> Since childhood, we are used to being assessed and graded. First, in kindergarten, then at school. We are looking for approval from teachers and classmates, then - at university and at work, approval of the opposite sex, of colleagues, even of subordinates... And without such approval we feel like losers, like wretched, unworthy beings. And should we sense a disapproval - well, that's enough to send us into a deep, dark depression. Even our life's biggest decisions are way too often influenced by what others would think.</p><div></div><p><i> Remember: others' approval or disapproval is just smoke on the water. The weather changes and it appears, yet with the slightest blow of the wind it sways and disappeared. Someone else's opinion is subjective and does not play any role in your fate.  </i></p><div></div><p>So, every time when hesitating over a choice or decision, ask yourself: «What is it that I want?» And don't give a minute's thought about how others will take it!</p><h2>Examples</h2><p></p><p><b>If you love your job </b>- work your way to success and pay not attention to ridicule. Those who mock are the first to lack confidence, deep inside.</p><p></p><p></p><p><b>If you love a person</b> - be with them, even if nobody else approves. Others won't give you that kind of love. They can only take it away, without offering anything in return.</p><p></p><p><b>And even if you like jam on your meatballs</b> - stick to it! Be yourself! If something makes you happy, you can not abandon it on the whim of others.</p><div><img src="https://img.motiday.ru/146904952320.jpg"/><div></div></div><p></p><p>Every time you worry about others' opinions, ask yourself if it is really that important. How does it affect your life? In 99% of cases there is an instant answer: it doesn't.</p><p></p><p><b></b></p><p><b><b>Free your self-esteem from the obsession with the opinion of others. Only happiness and inner peace can really help you succeed. And happiness and inner peace come to those who stay true to themselves!</b></b></p><b>


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<p>You know what prevents people from being truly happy? Obsession with other people's opinions. You like your job, but friends and family find it useless and uncool. You like a man, but your girlfriends are turning their noses in contempt. You like putting jam on your meatballs but your family finds it weird. These situations are bound to make us feels completely uncomfortable. And in 8 out of 10 cases we give up on what we actually like. </p>

<p><b>Advice from the wise: </b>ask yourself what you really need. Living in harmony with your inner self - that's the secret of true happiness.<i> </i> </p>

<p>In the words of Marcus Aurelius: «I have often wondered how it is that every man loves himself more than all the rest of men, but yet sets less value on his own opinions of himself than on the opinions of others.» </p>

<p><b>Why does this happen? </b>Since childhood, we are used to being assessed and graded. First, in kindergarten, then at school. We are looking for approval from teachers and classmates, then - at university and at work, approval of the opposite sex, of colleagues, even of subordinates... And without such approval we feel like losers, like wretched, unworthy beings. And should we sense a disapproval - well, that's enough to send us into a deep, dark depression. Even our life's biggest decisions are way too often influenced by what others would think. </p>

<p><i>Remember: others' approval or disapproval is just smoke on the water. The weather changes and it appears, yet with the slightest blow of the wind it sways and disappeared. Someone else's opinion is subjective and does not play any role in your fate. </i> </p>

<p>So, every time when hesitating over a choice or decision, ask yourself: «What is it that I want?» And don't give a minute's thought about how others will take it! </p>

<p><b>If you love your job </b>- work your way to success and pay not attention to ridicule. Those who mock are the first to lack confidence, deep inside. </p>

<p><b>If you love a person </b>- be with them, even if nobody else approves. Others won't give you that kind of love. They can only take it away, without offering anything in return. </p>

<p><b>And even if you like jam on your meatballs </b>- stick to it! Be yourself! If something makes you happy, you can not abandon it on the whim of others. </p>

<p>Every time you worry about others' opinions, ask yourself if it is really that important. How does it affect your life? In 99% of cases there is an instant answer: it doesn't. </p>

<p><b><b>Free your self-esteem from the obsession with the opinion of others. Only happiness and inner peace can really help you succeed. And happiness and inner peace come to those who stay true to themselves! </b> </b> </p>

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