Love doesn’t mean possession. Love means freedom and safety at the same time.

The more you understand yourself, the more peace you bring into your relationships.

Your healing helps you love people for who they are, not for who you want them to be.

Love isn’t just a feeling - it’s a commitment, a verb, a conscious decision. <ul><li>It’s built and rebuilt every day through care, attention, and presence. </li><li>The small daily actions matter more than grand gestures. </li></ul>Tip: Loving better is a lifelong journey, not a final destination. Example: Daily acts of care - like making coffee or checking in emotionally - build connection over time.

Love Is a Daily Practice

Gratitude keeps you grounded in what is good, even in moments of struggle. <ul><li>When you regularly express appreciation, you strengthen the bond and shift focus from what’s missing to what’s present. </li></ul>Tip: Gratitude nurtures appreciation and keeps love alive. Example: A simple “thank you for listening” after a hard day shows you notice their efforts.

Stay Grateful

Some relationships complete their purpose and are not meant to last forever. <ul><li>Holding on out of fear or habit can be more damaging than lovingly letting go. </li><li>True love respects timing and truth. </li></ul>Tip: Some connections aren’t meant to last forever, and that’s okay. Example: Ending a relationship that hinders your well-being is an act of self-respect, not failure.

Know When to Let Go

Attachment often comes from fear, whereas love comes from freedom. <ul><li>Learning to love without control allows deeper trust and mutual respect. </li><li>Detaching from the need to possess someone opens space for real connection. </li></ul>Tip: Love without clinging; let people be free while staying connected. Example: Supporting your partner’s solo travel or dreams without feeling abandoned.

Release Attachment, Not Love

The right relationship isn’t perfect - it’s one where both people are committed to growing together.

Even the strongest love can be shaken by cruelty or carelessness. <ul><li>Kindness isn’t weakness - it’s strength expressed through empathy. </li><li>Small acts of kindness can have a lasting impact, especially during moments of tension. </li></ul>Tip: Even in conflict, treat your partner with tenderness. Example: A disagreement doesn’t need to become a battlefield - choose respect over winning.

Kindness Is the Backbone of Every Relationship

True love begins with how you treat yourself. <ul><li>Without kindness and compassion toward yourself, it's difficult to extend genuine love to others. </li><li>Self-compassion allows for emotional regulation, resilience, and a healthier self-image, all of which strengthen relationships.</li></ul>Tip: You can only give love as deeply as you love yourself. Example: Speak to yourself kindly during mistakes instead of harsh self-criticism.

Practice Self-Compassion First

Before building deep connections with others, it’s vital to face our own emotional wounds. <ul><li>Love becomes more genuine when it’s not clouded by past pain, fear, or insecurities. </li><li>Inner healing cultivates self-awareness and emotional balance, allowing us to show up with authenticity and clarity. </li></ul>Tip: Self-awareness and healing past wounds are key to loving others better. Example: Taking time to understand your emotional triggers can prevent projecting them onto your partner.

Love Starts with Inner Healing

Lasting love isn’t static. <ul><li>It thrives when both individuals are committed to evolving - not just individually, but together. </li><li>A healthy relationship becomes a safe space for change, learning, and mutual inspiration. </li></ul>Tip: Relationships flourish when both individuals support each other’s evolution. Example: Encourage each other to pursue new interests, attend therapy, or reflect on goals.

Choose Growth Together

Communication is the lifeline of relationships. <ul><li>Misunderstandings often stem from unclear or reactive speech. </li><li>Speaking with honesty, gentleness, and openness allows space for deeper emotional intimacy and mutual respect. </li></ul>Tip: Honest, kind, and frequent communication builds trust. Example: Instead of saying, “You always ignore me,” try “I feel unheard when you’re on your phone during our talks.”

Clear Communication Creates Connection

Conflict is inevitable, but resolution is a choice. <ul><li>Seeking perfection creates pressure; building harmony invites patience and forgiveness. </li><li>Healthy love accepts flaws and focuses on repair and re-connection. </li></ul>Tip: Conflict is natural; what matters is how you repair it. Example: After a disagreement, check in: “Can we talk about what happened earlier with a calm heart?”

Build Harmony, Not Perfection

A beautifully written book. This book was released on March 11, 2025, and offers a blueprint for deepening compassion, kindness and gratitude to build stronger connections in all relationships. This is a summary from my understanding of the book. Experience the book fully by reading it yourself.

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • The beloved author of Lighter offers a blueprint for deepening your compassion, kindness, and gratitude so you can truly grow in harmony with another person and build stronger connections in all your relationships. “A beautiful offering from the heart, to the heart.”—Elizabeth Gilbert “Yung Pueblo holds a mirror to the relationships we have and offers clear directions to the relationships we desire.”—Simon Sinek “How to Love Better is destined to change your life.”—Lena Waithe “Everyone enters relationships with imperfections and negative patterns that block the flow of love, but when you embrace growth, the new harmony within you will flow into your relationship.” Love enters our lives in many forms: friends, family, intimate partners. But all of these relationships are deeply influenced by the love we have for ourselves. If we see our relationships as opportunities to be fully present in our healing and growth, then, Yung Pueblo assures us, we can transform and meet one another with compassion instead of judgment. In How to Love Better, Yung Pueblo examines all aspects of relationships, from the rose-colored early days when you may be hesitant to show your full self, to the challenges that can arise without clear communication, to dealing with heartbreak and healing as you close a chapter of your life. The power of looking inward remains at the core of Yung Pueblo’s teachings. Ego and attachment can become barriers in a relationship, so the more self-aware you become, the more you can support both your partner and yourself. How to Love Better includes: • How to build harmony in a relationship • How to see each other’s perspective • How to find the right partner • How to heal from heartbreak • How to overcome attachment • How to form commitments • How to argue Yung Pueblo’s insights on embracing change, building a foundation of honesty, and learning to listen selflessly will resonate regardless of where you are in your healing journey. And his unique combination of poetry, personal experience, and thoughtful advice will help you grow and strengthen all of your relationships.

YUNG PUEBLO

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