<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Can be told in less than 60 seconds.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Making conversations better with friends and family (or boss).</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The goal is to make every second count.</li></ul>

How to tell a Great Stories

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Will the answer keep people engaged until the end?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Ask a shocking question to grab the audience's attention.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Examples:</li></ul><ol><li class="ql-align-justify">How much ice cream can you get for a dollar?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">What is the cheapest thing in an airport?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Is it faster to go inside or use the drive-through?</li></ol>

Start With a Question

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Build up to the answers to your questions.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Make the audience feel a constant progression.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Provide updates on progress.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">For example:</li></ul><ol><li class="ql-align-justify">In the video, the speaker was showing how she added ingredients to her burger while cooking in the car.</li></ol>

Take Your Audience on a Journey

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">It Makes the Audience Invested in the Outcome.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Can be Done by Introducing an Opposing Character or an Obstacle.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Example:</li></ul><ol><li class="ql-align-justify">The Speaker's Mother Questioning the Actions of the Protagonist.</li></ol>

Adding Conflict to the Story is Crucial

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Build up to the initial question's answer</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Make the audience uncertain of the question's outcome</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Example:</li></ul><ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Audience wondering if a burger will be cooked faster than a drive-through</li></ol>

Build Up to a Satisfying Ending

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Answers should be provided quickly and concisely.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Make it engaging by using music, dialogue, and unexpected twists.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Example:</li></ul><ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Speaker reveals that a burger was cooked faster and better than a drive-through.</li></ol>

Ending

For social media creator and viral video hitmaker @JennyHoyos, the key to telling a great story is to keep it brief. She breaks down her framework for telling stories in 60 seconds or less that can gain millions of views online — or simply elevate your everyday conversations. (Created in collaboration with @ignite; recorded at TEDNext 2024 on October 22, 2024)

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Just because someone fails to appreciate you doesn’t mean you’re any less worthy.

Your Value Doesn’t Decrease Because Others Don’t See It

If you constantly have to prove your worth, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong place.

Respect Yourself Enough to Leave

Being unappreciated slowly takes away your confidence and self-worth. Protect your energy.

Staying Where You’re Undervalued Drains You

If someone truly values you, they will show it. If they don’t, stop making excuses for them.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Walking away allows you to see things more clearly—whether you were settling or if they ever truly valued you.

Distance Creates Clarity

Relationships should be mutual. If you’re the only one giving, it’s time to step back.

You Deserve Reciprocation

You shouldn’t have to convince anyone of your value. The right people will recognize it without you forcing them to.

The Right People Will See Your Worth

Some people fail to appreciate you because they were never meant to be in your life long-term.

Not Everyone is Meant to Stay

By staying where you aren’t valued, you block yourself from the people and opportunities that will truly appreciate you.

Holding On Delays Better Opportunities

Sometimes, people only realize your worth once you leave. But by then, it may be too late.

Your Absence Teaches What Your Presence Couldn’t

Leaving situations where you’re not valued is a sign of strength, not weakness. Self-respect is more important than forced belonging.

Walking Away is a Power Move

"When they don’t see your worth, don’t argue—just leave. Your value doesn’t need validation."

Why Walking Away is Sometimes the Best Decision

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Maintain a balanced diet, exercise, and monitor your health (hormones, nutrition).Avoid processed foods and harmful chemicals in skincare products.Stay present and engaged in conversations, just like playing a rhythm game.React quickly and naturally to what others say to create a flow.

Prioritize Your Well-being and Enter a State of Play

When feeling irritated or upset, pause and reframe the situation.Distance yourself from negativity and assume the best in people.Keep an open mind when discussing different opinions.Respond with curiosity instead of criticism.

Reframe Negative Emotions and Be Non-Judgmental

Identify shared interests—food, music, beliefs—to create an instant connection.Give without expecting anything in return (compliments, time, resources).Celebrate others' successes and encourage them.

Find Common Ground and Be Generous & Supportive

I break down the real secret to forming meaningful, lasting connections with people — even total strangers. It all ties back to a concept you may have seen online: the emotional spiral.

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Some people come into your life and leave a mark. Replacing them too quickly can mean losing something truly valuable.

True Connections Are Rare

Just because someone new enters your life doesn’t mean they can fill the space of someone who genuinely cared for you.

New Doesn’t Always Mean Better

Staying true to the ones who have been there for you speaks volumes about your integrity and values.

Loyalty Defines Character

Treating people as interchangeable can lead to shallow relationships instead of deep, meaningful bonds.

People Are Not Temporary Replacements

Walking away from someone good for someone new may leave you realizing too late what you truly lost.

The Grass Isn’t Always Greener

The moments shared with someone matter. Don’t let them fade just because someone new has arrived.

Memories Hold Meaning

Strong connections are built over time. A new relationship or friendship shouldn’t make you forget those who stood by you.

Genuine Bonds Take Time

Even if things change, respect the past. It shaped you, and the people who were there deserve to be remembered.

Respect What You Had

Cutting ties for someone else’s sake can lead to regret, especially if the new connection proves to be temporary.

Don’t Burn Bridges Without Reason

The ones who were there in your hardest moments deserve to be valued, not forgotten when things get better.

Cherish Those Who Truly Care

People who genuinely care for you do so without conditions. Replacing them for convenience weakens the meaning of real relationships.

Love and Friendship Aren’t Transactions

"Never forget someone who was there for you, just because someone new is standing in front of you."

Why True Bonds Shouldn’t Be Replaced Easily

Don’t Forget Someone for Someone Else: The Value of Genuine Connections

Living single in your early 30s can feel either terrifying or exhilarating—like you’re untouchable one moment and questioning everything the next.  FREEDOM impacts each of us differently. Some people thrive in solitude, while others feel most free within a secure relationship. As I write this, I’m reminded that freedom is one of my core values—one I fiercely protect.  If freedom matters to you, you’ve probably felt that internal alarm when it’s threatened. This makes dating in our 30s feel tougher than in our 20s—we know ourselves better, and we’re more aware of what’s at stake: our values.

30 Years Old And Free

People who prioritize their freedom aren’t immediately available. Yet somehow, that makes them immediately more attractive.  I’ve been on both sides—drawn to unavailable men and being the unavailable one for men who wanted me. Both experiences taught me the same lesson, which became a firm belief: It’s not unavailability itself that’s attractive, but someone’s ability to stand by their values.So I wonder: Are we really drawn to them, or to the self-respect and loyalty one embodies —qualities we wish we had more of ourselves?

Here’s the catch:

<ul><li>Does this explain why we sometimes chase self-centered people, even when they’re not particularly smart or physically attractive?  </li></ul>And more importantly, does it also explain why, when someone seems too eager to have us, we don’t feel special—but uneasy? As if it’s not really about us, but about what we represent: strong boundaries and unshaken values.  <ul><li>Is availability unattractive? And since healthy relationships require both people to be present, how do we balance the two?  </li></ul>

Here’s Some Reflection:

How can availability become attractive?

What makes dating so difficult in our 30s?

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It is a great error to take oneself for more than one is, or for less than one is worth.

One need only grow old to become gentler in one’s judgements. I see no fault committed which I could not have committed myself.

Ingratitude is always a kind of weakness. I have never known men of ability to be ungrateful.

By nothing do men show their character more than by the things they laugh at.

It is failings that show human nature, and merits that distinguish the individual; faults and misfortunes we all have in common; virtues belong to each one separately.

Every man hears only what he understands.

Throughout his long, hectic and astonishingly varied life, Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749–1832) would jot down his passing thoughts on theatre programmes, visiting cards, draft manuscripts and even bills ... Goethe was probably the last true ‘Renaissance Man’. Although employed as a Privy Councillor at the Duke of Weimar’s court, where he helped oversee major mining, road-building and irrigation projects, he also painted, directed plays, carried out research in anatomy, botany and optics – and still found time to produce masterpieces in every literary genre. His fourteen hundred Maxims and Reflections reveal some of his deepest thought on art, ethics, literature and natural science, but also his immediate reactions to books, chance encounters or his administrative work. Although variable in quality, the vast majority have a freshness and immediacy which vividly conjure up Goethe the man. They make an ideal introduction to one of the greatest of European writers.

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Gen Z became the first generation in history to go through puberty with a portal in their pockets.They spent far less time playing with, talking to, touching, or even making eye contact with their friends and families, thereby reducing their participation in embodied social behaviors that are essential for successful human development.

1. Overprotecting children in the real world (where they need to learn from vast amounts of direct experience)2. Underprotecting them online (where they are particularly vulnerable during puberty)

The two big mistakes we’ve made:

Healthy brain development depends on getting the right experiences at the right age and in the right order.Humans have several “sensitive periods,” which are defined as periods in which it is very easy to learn something or acquire a skill, and outside of which it is more difficult.

Sensitive periods:

Discover mode turns on when you detect opportunities. Defend mode turns on when threats are detected.People who go through life in discover mode are happier, more sociable, and more eager for new experiences. (except when directly threatened)Conversely, those who are chronically in defend mode are more defensive and anxious, and will learn less and grow less.

Discover mode vs Defend mode:

The attachment system evolved to help young mammals learn the skills they’ll need to reach adulthood while retreating to their “secure base” when they feel threatened.Every child needs at least one adult who serves as a “secure base.”A securely attached child usually settles within a few seconds or minutes, shifts back to discover mode, and heads out for more learning.

The attachment system:

1. Safetyism:The worship of “safety” is called safetyism.It prevents children from getting the quantity and variety of real-world experiences and challenges that they need.2. SmartphonesOnce they enter a child’s life, they push out or reduce all other forms of non-phone-based experience.

Experience blockers:

<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Social deprivation</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Sleep deprivation</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Attention fragmentation</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Addiction</li></ol>When we put these four foundational harms together, they explain why mental health got so much worse so suddenly as soon as childhood became phone-based.

The 4 foundational harms:

Each of us, acting alone, perceives that it’s too difficult or costly to do the right thing. But if we can act together, the costs go way down.Collective action problems require collective responses from governments, companies, schools and parents.

Collective action:

<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Assert a duty of care: To have some moral and legal responsibility for how to treat minors.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Raise the age of internet adulthood to 16</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Develop better age verification features</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Encourage phone-free schools (with phone lockers or lockable pouches in schools)</li></ol>

What Govt and tech companies can do:

<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Stop punishing parents for giving children real-world freedom</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Design and zone public space with children in mind</li><li class="ql-align-justify">More vocational education, apprenticeships, and youth development programs</li></ol>

What Govt can do to incentivize more real-world experience:

9 Powerful Lessons from "The Anxious Generation" by Jonathan Haidt

THE INSTANT #1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • A must-read for all parents: the generation-defining investigation into the collapse of youth mental health in the era of smartphones, social media, and big tech—and a plan for a healthier, freer childhood. “Erudite, engaging, combative, crusading.” —New York Times Book Review (Editors’ Choice) “Words that chill the parental heart… thanks to Mr. Haidt, we can glimpse the true horror of what happened not only in the U.S. but also elsewhere in the English-speaking world… lucid, memorable… galvanizing.” —Wall Street Journal “[An] important new book... The shift in kids’ energy and attention from the physical world to the virtual one, Haidt shows, has been catastrophic, especially for girls.” —Michelle Goldberg, The New York Times After more than a decade of stability or improvement, the mental health of adolescents plunged in the early 2010s. Rates of depression, anxiety, self-harm, and suicide rose sharply, more than doubling on many measures. Why? In The Anxious Generation, social psychologist Jonathan Haidt lays out the facts about the epidemic of teen mental illness that hit many countries at the same time. He then investigates the nature of childhood, including why children need play and independent exploration to mature into competent, thriving adults. Haidt shows how the “play-based childhood” began to decline in the 1980s, and how it was finally wiped out by the arrival of the “phone-based childhood” in the early 2010s. He presents more than a dozen mechanisms by which this “great rewiring of childhood” has interfered with children’s social and neurological development, covering everything from sleep deprivation to attention fragmentation, addiction, loneliness, social contagion, social comparison, and perfectionism. He explains why social media damages girls more than boys and why boys have been withdrawing from the real world into the virtual world, with disastrous consequences for themselves, their families, and their societies. Most important, Haidt issues a clear call to action. He diagnoses the “collective action problems” that trap us, and then proposes four simple rules that might set us free. He describes steps that parents, teachers, schools, tech companies, and governments can take to end the epidemic of mental illness and restore a more humane childhood. Haidt has spent his career speaking truth backed by data in the most difficult landscapes—communities polarized by politics and religion, campuses battling culture wars, and now the public health emergency faced by Gen Z. We cannot afford to ignore his findings about protecting our children—and ourselves—from the psychological damage of a phone-based life.

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The Anxious Generation

Table of ContentsThe Euphoric StageTake the Love QuizThe Early Attachment StageThe Crisis StageThe Deep Attachment Stage

From Euphoria to Deep Attachment

Falling in love is easy, but making a relationship work is challenging.Just like anything else worth having in life, relationships require effort. Some couples manage to overcome difficulties, while others simply grow apart.

Relationships Take Effort

When it comes to coupling, there is no instruction manual. Remember that old playground mantra: First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes so and so and a baby carriage?

There's No Checklist

Love is not a one-size-fits-all journey.While some marry and have kids, others take different paths. Each relationship is unique, just like each person.The stages of love remain the same, regardless of the path taken. The key to a happy relationship? Navigating these stages together.

The Many Paths of Love

Neuroscientists and 'experts in love' have outlined 4 stages of a relationship. These stages go from falling in love to living happily ever after (or at least, for a while). Here are the stages they have found, along with ways to successfully navigate each one:

Love Stages

You can break these stages down based on when they typically occur:Stage 1: The euphoric stage - 6 months to 24 months (2 years)Stage 2: The early attachment stage - 12 months (1 year) to 60 months (5 years)Stage 3: The crisis stage - 60 months (5 years) to 84 months (7 years)Stage 4: The deep attachment stage - 84 months (7 years) and beyond

The 4 Stages Of Love

The euphoric stage is sometimes known as the 'honeymoon phase.' What makes this stage so magical?For the past several decades, Helen Fisher, PhD, neuroscientist and Senior Research Fellow at the Kinsey Institute, and Lucy Brown, PhD, Clinical Professor in Neurology at Einstein College of Medicine in New York, have been studying the brain activity of people in love, from the early to the later stages.

Stage 1

In the early part of a relationship—the falling in love stage—the other person is the center of your life. You forgive everything in these early stages. The other person has faults, and you see them, but it doesn’t matter. Maybe they leave their dirty dishes in the sink, but they make you laugh at least daily, so it’s okay. Good things outweigh the negative here."

Suspending negative judgement is vital for a happy relationship. This means decreasing activity in the prefrontal cortex, which judges people negatively. Couples who can maintain this for longer have higher chances of success.In a follow-up study, researchers found that those who stayed together for 3 or more years showed significant decrease in activity in this brain region. This highlights the importance of suspending negative judgement for a lasting relationship.

Key to Relationship Success

Research shows that the passionate stage in relationships can last anywhere from 6 months to 2 years. However, a small percentage of couples (15% to 30%) claim to still feel the same excitement even after 10 or 15 years.This means that the "honeymoon phase" has an expiration date, but some couples can keep the spark alive for much longer. So, don't worry if the intense feelings eventually fade – it's completely normal.

How Long Will It Last?

Brown explains, "We don't know why this is. I don't necessarily think it's because they have found their soulmates. I think it's the person. Some people have an easier time rekindling the earlier stages. Not to say the rest of us can't."For the general population, the intoxication of new love will eventually morph into the next stage: early attachment.Remember, love is a journey, not a destination.

A Journey To Early Attachment - Stage 2

In the previous stage of falling in love, unconscious factors like attraction and the pleasure-reward system take over. Brain scans of couples in this stage showed high levels of dopamine, the chemical that triggers intense pleasure.Now, the more evolved parts of the brain, like the ventral pallidum and attachment hormones, take the lead. These hormones, such as oxytocin, are known as "the love hormone" and are responsible for attachment and bonding.

The Early Attachment Stage

You know when you’ve reached the early attachment stage when, “You can sleep! You’re not thinking about [your partner] 24 hours a day. It’s easier to do other things in your life.”

Couples that had been married for at least one year described love differently. “It’s richer, deeper, it’s knowing them better," says Brown. “Memories have been integrated—both positive and negative—you’ve gone through some difficulties, and you’ve developed a strong attachment.”

In relationships, the third stage is crucial - it's known as the "seven-year or five-year itch."<ul><li>According to Brown, every relationship has a drift apart phase.</li><li>This can either lead to coming back together or drifting apart.</li><li>A crisis can be the key to overcoming this phase and talking it out together.</li></ul>For some couples, having children can either solidify their bond or cause stress that breaks the relationship apart. If the crisis stage is successfully overcome, the next stage is deep attachment.

The 3rd Stage of Relationships: Make or Break Point

In a relationship, the deep attachment stage is the calm after the storm. It's when a couple knows each other well and has been through the challenges. They have confidence in their ability to handle crises and have a plan for future ones. This stage is marked by security and stability.After many years together, couples can experience a lasting, secure connection. If you're fortunate, this stage can last a lifetime.

The Deep Attachment Stage 4

How can we keep love going? According to researchers, one of the best ways is through novelty. Studies show that doing new, exciting, and challenging activities together can benefit relationships.Dr. Art Aron and his wife, Dr. Elaine Aron, developed the "Self Expansion Model" to explain the intense feelings in the early stages of love. It reveals why the first few months of a new relationship can feel so exhilarating.

Keeping It Going

When you enter into a relationship, you literally increase who you are. You take on and share in your partner’s perspective on the world in addition to your own, their social status, and their resources. The benefits of new and challenging experiences together are enormous. And they last.

From the honeymoon phase to long-lasting commitment, nearly every couple goes through these stages of love. If you can successfully make it through turbulent times together, your bond will be strengthened and your commitment will be secure and steadfast.

Final Thoughts

Finding lasting love requires suspension of judgment, rekindling the early stages, and maintaining novelty.Don't judge your partner too quickly, keep the passion and excitement alive, and always look for new ways to show your love. These could be the keys to unlocking long-term happiness in your relationship.

Cracking the Code of Lasting Love

Top neuroscientists in the field of love explain what happens to our brains as we move through the stages of romantic relationships.

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It’s strange how no one really teaches you how to handle life’s toughest moments. Not parents, not schools, and certainly not mainstream media. Instead, we’re fed the worst coping mechanisms — drown your heartbreak in alcohol, chase meaningless hookups for emotional connection, or seek revenge when you’re bullied. And without realizing it, many people embrace these self-destructive patterns.But I found better ways to cope — ones that actually heal rather than harm. I hope they help you too.

No One Talks About These Healthy Coping Mechanisms—But They Work

Write a love letter to your future partner or remind yourself of the love you already have in your life. love isn’t just romantic — it exists in friendships, family, and even in the small moments you cherish alone.

IF YOU FEEL LIKE YOU’LL BE SINGLE FOREVER…

Don’t chase other people’s validation. Instead, ask yourself why you feel disconnected from yourself. Spend time doing things that make you feel whole — read, paint, take a long walk, or simply sit with your thoughts. Sometimes, the best company is your own.

IF YOU FEEL LONELY…

Going through a breakup is tough because it’s not just the loss of a person—it’s the loss of dreams, routines, and a version of yourself that existed in that relationship.Suppressing emotions only makes them resurface more intensely. Allow yourself to feel sadness and anger, but don’t let them define you. Staying in touch makes it harder to heal—even checking their social media slows the process. Give yourself space—block, mute, or unfollow if needed.

IF YOU’RE GOING THROUGH A BREAKUP…

Congratulations, you’ve just been chosen as their humble servant. Prepare to be judged for your life choices while they knock things off your table at 3 a.m. But hey, at least you have a fluffy overlord now.

IF YOU FIND A CAT…

Understand that jealousy often points to something you want but feel is out of reach. Instead of letting it consume you, use it as inspiration. Ask yourself: what is this feeling trying to teach me? Then, work toward your goals at your own pace.

IF YOU FEEL JEALOUS…

Know that grief is love that didn’t get to be expressed. Let yourself feel it — there’s no rush. Take all the time you need. You’ve suffered a great loss, and you are allowed to cry. Don’t let anyone tell you to “get over it” just because time has passed. Grief doesn’t follow a schedule. But in your pain, don’t turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms like alcohol or drugs. Feel every emotion, but don’t stop taking care of yourself. Cook, practice self-care, meditate — whatever keeps you grounded. Healing doesn’t mean forgetting; it means learning to carry your love and your loss together.

IF YOU’RE FACING GRIEF…

All of these healthy coping mechanisms I found on my own and they helped me significantly. I hope they do the same for you!

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Don’t Forget Someone for Someone Else: The Value of Genuine Connections

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Don’t Forget Someone for Someone Else: The Value of Genuine Connections

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The Anxious Generation

Navigating the 4 Stages of a Relationship

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